#im an adult with a job let me spend my money

[churchyaoi]

my dad keeps telling me to stop buying halo figures because ill lose interest in half a year like relax bro first of all you underestimate my autism second of all can i not have a little bit of joy in this dull life. and also if i do lose interest i can just sell them again. i know like 5 people who would buy them right now

[teaboot]

You dont have to answer it. Im just kind of venting because nobody understands or listens to what im saying.

You mentioned financial abuse and women not being allowed bank accounts even though they could work. Every time someone brings this up it feels so similar to my own situation it pisses me off.

I'm a minor. I *do* have a bank account but i can only use it in a physical store and not online or anything because my darling mother thinks it's unnecessary. She says that i can just ask one of them to buy things for me. Even tho there have been times where i have to call her a million times to just buy me a train ticket to get me home. She asks if i have secrets if i want to use my money so much.

It's not about that. It's not about trust, it's not about secrets. It's about independence. Bitch, i will become an adult soon enough, will you stoll treat me the same way? It's about her trust in me. I am a prisoner as it is why does she have to rub it in. I know i'm not a person until i'm 18 i KNOW but like. I'm only living off of permissions and allowances. I can't fucking donate to palestinians because "there is no reason for that" and then i ask her to do and she says she will but DOESN'T. I couldn't buy a bknder i had to have someone else do it.

Oh, let me be clear, you ARE a person NOW. That is incredibly unfair.

If you are old enough and responsible enough to work and earn a paycheck, you’re old enough to spend your money.

I used to fight CONSTANTLY for this sort of thing. Adult responsibilities, child privileges. Do the labour, reap none of the benefits. FUCK that.

And, frankly, you ARE going to make a few dumb financial decisions at some point in your life. The IDEA is that you do it while you’re young and have your family as a safety net in case it’s too big or you fuck up TOO bad and need help- no school lunch money cause you bought games? You won’t go hungry, but you WILL pack a sandwich from home. Baby steps.

Or, what, you’re supposed to go from zero to 100 the day you move out? How the HELL are you going to just *spontaneously develop* the ability to balance a check book, budget, save, prioritize your expenses?

You absolutely have the right of it, one hundred percent. There will come a time when your mother has to let go, but what you are describing is ABSOLUTELY financial abuse and is her way of exercising control over you and denying you privacy.

I do have to ask though, how does your workplace pay you out? Is it possible to request a partial payment in cash? That way, you can have a little on hand in case you need it.

Also… I’m not sure where you live, but if you can, consider maybe stopping by that bank at some point and book in a consult with an advisor. Ask if there’s any way of locking your mother out or getting online banking together for yourself. If she’s the one handling your finances and giving you no access, I wouldn’t trust what she says in regards to what you can do without her.

And if it comes up… this isn’t just a matter of trust, it’s a matter of respect. Or, what, they think you’re stupid? They think you’re a secret drug dealer handling dirty money? What? What POSSIBLE reason could they have for keeping you from spending your own money, unless they think you’re a dumb irresponsible kid, and if that’s the truth, why let you have a job at all? Why not lock you in a tower for the rest of your life? Why let you go to school, if they’re going to be caring for you like a sickly Victorian waif forever? Or do they think you’re so fragile that making a mistake will cause you to crumble forever, like you’re not smart or determined or tough enough to survive a few monetary hiccups in life?

Sorry, Jesus, I’m angry on your behalf. My parents sucked sometimes but financial independence wasn’t something they fucked around with, that’s some feudal lord ass shit right there

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for saying I'm not rich?

Wait stop hear me out

So the thing is, my father is wealthy. Or at least he made enough money to have two Ferraris and a boat, which to me are the most useless things because why would u spend that money on this when u could spend it on food or commodities but details

When I was young, any time I asked for money or something, he'd make a huge deal about it. He'd make me feel awful, so awful that I just stopped asking for anything at all, starting from my teenage years to my college years, and I survived entire months, living alone during college, with 50 dollars to get by. For groceries and bills. And yes, he was nice enough to pay for my rent (170 dollars back then) but every time I'd be the worst piece of garbage for asking him. Worst thing was, I wanted a job, but he had this delusion that any sort of job that would take me, basically customer service, i wanted was "underneath my daughter" so he legit didn't let me and he'd go to big, big hoops to not allow me to do so

I'd never buy clothes or other necessities: I spent my teenage years just putting together what I got from relatives to make some savings, and I'd survive on that. He'd go splendid on my birthday and christmas, I guess, he'd buy me things, but I came to dread those days because the thought of him spending money -and how he reacted to it- always sent me into a blind panic so yes even though I got nice gifts I was never happy about it and I really really don't like my birthday

So I was always the girl who had two Ferraris to my friends, and they'd always get mad at me when I honestly told them "actually Im not rich" or "I'm sorry I'd rather go to the cheaper place" - because I legit thought i wasn't - and called me an asshole. But This was my father's money and I lived with him, but I rarely saw an actual dollar, everything I bought was with my savings and I spent years and years accumulating it, hoarding it. So I lived in this fancy house, but I'd wear 3 dollar pants and worn shoes because that's what I could afford with my money.

Note that even paying my school fees was a nightmare to me, because my father openly said I was a parasite and screamed at me but whATEVER

So um, my friends always said i was an ass for saying I didn't have any money, when my father was swimming in it. But when u survive on the allowance ur aunt gave u for an entire month, u really don't feel like it? and I always always felt so bad about it, because it felt like they were right and I was an asshole for pretending I don't have money. Except I didn't. I really didn't. That was all his, not mine, and while he did pay school and college flat rent, he was always making sure I knew what a burden I was for it. So yes, I'd still say I was actually not rich - even though I was lucky enough to have someone pay for me.

Anyway yeah AITA for saying I'm not rich? Tbh I really don't know if I can consider myself that, when it's not mine and I've never actually used it, it doesn't feel like it, but some tell me that's my privilege and I guess that could be right

Note: I am a grown adult now, I live on my own, pay my own things and have my job. And he's happy that he doesn't have to pay for me anymore, is baffled by my relationship with money (I don't like spending it ahah), not so much about me not living with him though. (The weird thing is he wants me with him, but not to take care of me which, honestly, valid) I do have a better relationship with him, but we never talk money because I live on minimum wage - ironically enough in costumer service - and he doesn't, so to me spending 60 on groceries is a lot (150 bills destroy me honestly, so winter is a joy) and he always, always mocks me for it. It's weird how he goes around with a Rolex and snuffs me for wearing Primark pants and then people constantly just... Think I have money at all and get mad at me when I say I don't

Anyway yeah AITA for saying I'm not rich? Tbh I really don't know if I can consider myself that if it's not mine, if I've never actually used it, it doesn't feel like it, but some tell me that's my privilege and I guess that could be right

[fairycosmos]

i found out that one of my coworkers that just quit talked shit about everyone. and my supervisor keeps snapping at me. and like i lowkey feel like my life is over lol

ughhhh i totally get u tbh this has happened at most of my jobs unfortunately just by virute of being a neurodivergent woman. that feeling of being talked about and snapped at is horrible, and it makes total sense that you're feeling completely fed up. showing up to a place every day where you feel disliked and undervalued is exhausting, like i don't think the ppl that perpetuate this behaviour realise just how much it can fuck up you up. and it can make everything else in life feel heavier too. you are not overreacting, and you are not weak for feeling down abt it. anyone in your position would feel drained.

learning that your coworkers are not your friends is tough, and it is not something you can just decide to do and move on from. it is a skill you have to practice and ive been working on it for yrs myself without really mastering it. i want to connect w others and when you spend so much time somewhere, it is hard not to care what people think, even when you know their opinions shouldn't matter. and when people are openly negative or fake, it makes an already difficult job even harder. but what has helped me is reminding myself that at the end of the day, i am there to get my money. i do not have to like these people, and they do not have to like me and i can not let them stop me from like .......paying my bills. they can not have that much of an impact on my life lol like i refuse to let it happen !!

that does not mean it stops being exhausting though. people can be so fkn frustrating and immature. and a bad work environment can wear you down no matter how strong you are or how much u develop a sense of self/develop ur confidence. im glad that person quit and i hope that means you'll be able to feel more comfortable at work again with time. i also hope ur boss stops acting up and learns to communicate like an adult. make sure you keep a record of everything and of all feedback given so u have a paper trail if needed in the future. honestly half the time when a supervisor snaps its bc theyre having a bad day and its nothing to do w u or your work. not that that makes it ok, but sometimes it can help to just breathe and zoom out your perspective a little. sending so much love and support your way, i know this is hard. if you ever need to vent i'll be here x

[kings-highway]

would anyone read what would probably be a collection of one-shots or only vaguely sequential chapters that was like a slice-of-life/comedy series following the haikyuu third years working part time jobs unrelated to volleyball and developing weird, normal, adult friendships with each other because of it and then going back to school on Monday like "oh fuck right we need to beat them to go to nationals. thats gonna make seeing him at work weird. I hope he still covers my saturday shift if I win."

but the joke of the content would be that it's primarily focused on the work experience

so like Hinata and Kageyama come into a local grocery store and spot Aone and Asahi down one of the isles and spend a whole 30 minutes like "oh my god things must be so tense i hope they can stay civil" but theyre actually just retagging the canned goods for a sale and are just very efficient and silent.

and they go to say hi to Daichi at the customer service desk and he's stressed beyond belief, like, more stressed than they've ever seen him, and they're like "oh my god are you worried about going to nationals next month? yeah Im freaking out too!!"

and he's just like "what? no our new hire just quit so Im trying to rearrange the schedule and I think I need to ask Iwaizumi to cover closing for another few weeks and he's gonna be so mad. He hates working with Semi but I dont have any other options. Unless I wanna move- no there's no point in scheduling someone who doesnt know how to do it-" and hinata and kageyama just back away as he mutters to himself

Kageyama needs money for something and gets his first job with them and on like the first day he ends up working with Oikawa in the garden section of the store and expects it to be a chance for conflict and is all like "im not gonna let him bully me!!! we are equals here as coworkers!!!!" but instead Oikawa just sort of wanders around looking tired as fuck and very robotically doing his work and Kageyama eventually asks him if he's okay and Oikawa is like "dude ive been here since 4 am I dont even know who I am let alone if Im okay."

just classic grocery store employee hijinks

[princessesqcue]

im so obsessed with the hills by the weeknd (the ending of it), and this song give me dark vibe and make me feel things. do you take request? can u write a oneshot (or series) taehyung or jungkook x reader with this kind of dark romance vibes 🙏🏻🙏🏻. (if u okay with it ofc not forcing tho)

🫡im screaming lol🫠thank you sm for my first evaaa request , I absolutely love this 🥹noww my the hills days are somewhere far behind me , I had to listen to it again to refresh my memory of the themes and damnnn 🫢yk what , let me cook 👁️👁️.

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skin deep

toxic!taehyung x toxic!reader

tae bc I can't do this with jk today.

genre: dark romance

Summary: your husband is obsessed with you , his little doll , to spoil of all the little big things that money can buy , anything and everything but ever spending time with you , next to his job you come 5th and , even then you never imagined yourself cheating , you are spoilt rotten , and just what Taehyung needs .

warnings : cheating themes , reader and tae are toxic but he's a tad bit unhinged ,adult themes , possessiveness and obsession.

I deadass hate cheating, I'm still gonna experiment though.

mdni.

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you don't need much from him , not another Birkin bag , not the most exclusive pair of shoes and absolutely not the exclusivity of what the two of you share

he simply doesn't have the time for you , neither does he , how could two people be so similar yet so different?.

junho, your husband lives for you , breathes for you ,you get all you could ever want being an heiress who never missed anything from parental care to far from basic necessities, your parent's adored you and it was only natural that you married the son of an equally influential name ,it was good for business plus the man worshiped the ground you walked on , he loves you and there within lies the safety net , the refugee for your feelings

your emotions that HE does not indulge , you save those for Junho.

Taehyung likes you on his lap,sitting pretty with his arm secure around your waist while he jolts his hips up with an innate force pounding into your soaping cunt, Taehyung loves you , the faces you make when you're fucked out like this , the way you go putty in his hands and let him get high off you , when you're so close like this and he ditched his fix for the full experience the moment it randomly hit him that you were something a bit addicting , he just wanted to confirm that his senses were not entirely tainted with all the drugs that infiltrated his regular routines , it wasn't the drugs and Taehyung craves you more , it only makes him love you more

but love to Taehyung holds an entirely different meaning , you have love all around you , you breathe and exhale love , it's not what Taehyung translates to you when he holds your chin in a tight grip and tears your expensive dresses off you

it's something deeper , something intense , animalistic , something a married woman should definitely not be getting up to and not even guilt and can save you from this , you feel a twinge of guilt until he's there in front of you , all over you and he fucks you in ways you never knew you needed

Taehyung loves you , what you have is by far the best relationship he has ever had , Taehyung is obsessed with you but never in the way that Junho is and that is why this dynamic works so well , there is simply no room feelings and that makes everything perfect , for you , for him .

you don't pester him about anything at all , you are just like him , different motivations that lead towards the same goal post , you are the way you are because you are married satisfied with everything you have , Taehyung was your concious mistake , you knew he was your mistake and you never knew that your heart could so easily be separated from your motives until you came across him .Kim Taehyung , business associate of your husband , you had known him for nearly 5 years , occupied the same expensive venues an uncountable number of times , he knew you as his wife , he watched him flaunt you on his good arm , witnessed the love your huband held for you , loud and proud even when with the little time he had on his schedule, Taehyung saw it all and despised it , he has never in a day of his life wished for that ,he is screwed and selfish that's why it was so easy for him to desire you ,to fuck you and return you back to him for what he won't let anyone try out of him , not even perfect little you

his views of love are skewed but he knows he loves you when his mind tracks back to how this whole ordeal began , a dreadful mistake on your part and an eye cleanse on his, it was 5pm and your husband had invited the man to dinner, no warning, no heads up, nothing

it had been a minute since you last received any action and you had just happened to come across the cutest- no, sexiest lace lingerie during your shopping trip

you texted your husband that you had prepared the most delicious dinner before tossing your phone to the side and spending hours on preparing to get your back blown out , that is why you didn't get to think much of it when the door bell rang on cue just as you placed the make up brush down and you gave it one last look in the mirror before swaying your way to the door

it was pure horror

if you located your phone you would surely find the apology send by your husband telling you that he was going to be a bit late

serve some of your delicious dinner for Mr Kim and pass my apologies, love you.

oh if only he had known, how Taehyung simply accepted fate , the way his eyes darkened, the way your face drained of color , the way Taehyung's eyes wouldn't dare to depart from your body , the way they burn holes into every exposed curve, you were damn near naked marinating in embarrassment,

you hesitated not sure whether to let him in with how wide you had opened the door

was this how you greeted guests

"M-mr Kim?..."

after a quick debate and your mind buffering you let him in , it would have been rude if you left him out there, right?

you consoled yourself with the idea that Mr Kim has seen all this and beyond better before , you too have eyes and you'd be lying if you said you had not looked at him and found yourself awestruck , you have thought of him in the most innocent of lights never has your body heated up like this

you leave him to sitting, everything of him is respectful, you'd swear you had just not flashed the man if it was not for the eyes you feel on your back when you make a trail up to your bedroom

you were still so eager of your efforts that's why you settled for a fluffy robe instead of changing into respectable clothes like a wife should

something changed that night between you two, something you would go on to avoid even when your panties further stuck to your folds , your husband was who you needed

your husband who barely made dinner while his guest's eyes untied the robe off your body , it shouldn't work like that but you felt sexy , frustrated and so much desired from the visitor who sat across you, the temptations hanging in the air unaddressed, the handsome man with intense eyes had seen you, the stretch marks decorative of your ass and all that entranced his mind was the bubbling effect of each cheek as you walked away from him, he fought, tried to keep his gaze off you to make you comfortable irregardless of the damage already inflicted

Half past five.

the rest of Taehyung's night carried on , leading him to a familiar door step with self destructive company , alcohol and drug induced highs pacing the fine image of you at the back of his mind.

To be continued...

i hope this is decent 😁 😁 😁 LMK if you would like it in a different setting , I took the route of cheating bc the hills is dead ass about cheating 😔 🤚 thank you so much for requesting, I appreciate requests, they are always open, I feel like there is do much I want to do with these characters already 🫶

[pinkcannibal]

so i’m thinking that marilyn must be like… super rich, right? i mean from the looks of the Gates Mansion in the show, and the formal clothes the family were wearing in old family portrait, it’s safe to assume that the Gates were pretty loaded people. And the normal conclusion is that all of their money got inherited by Marilyn after they died. i guess im asking if you could share any personal headcanons/thoughts you have on rich!Mari? Like I just imagine her taking Reader out to this super fancy restaurant for their one year anniversary and Reader nearly passes out when she sees the prices. But Marilyn picks up the tab like "oh no don’t worry honey it’s no big deal" 😭 Idk Idk I just think it’s a fun lil headcanon to ponder about

oh im literallyyyy going to touch on this in my fic! she 100% inherited the gates fortune and mansion, they were canonically loaded and its real to me marilyn grew up as a rich girl <3 kdkkdfk like marilyn buying/paying for everything when it comes to reader in the fic is definitely coming up.

like marilyn to me has so much money to spare, and now that she finally has someone in her life she adores that she can spend it on??? yeah shes a menace

marilyn will buy reader high quality lingerie just to rip it off. will not care if she tears the lace bra in her need to bite and nip to her girls tits. and reader, her whole life used to not having pretty expensive things, will always blush and whine bc she feels soooo bad when they do get ruined. marilyn does not care, she buys her more the next day <33

if reader starts to get shy/protest on how much marilyn spends on her, this woman will distract her by going down on her and eating her out until she knows her sugar mommy tendencies are incurable <33

plus, shes giving reader everything she missed out on as a child. an adult in her life that will get them things without question and not ever call her selfish for it, and it heals both of them! marilyn gets to provide. reader gets to want things and not feel guilty

if reader is staring at something on her phone intensely while scrolling? yeah marilyns peaking over her shoulder and already putting an order in for it. not without teasing tho. "wow, sweet girl. thats so pretty. want mommy to buy it for you?" she doesnt have to ask, she definitely is, but its so worth it to see reader squirm in her hold and blush and force reader to ask for it.

like you said, treats her to theeee most nicest restaurants. lets reader get whatever she wants. it takes a few tries and dates together for reader to feel comfy ordering expensive things. she gets sooo dumbed down and needy tho when marilyn feeds her bites and runs her hand up her girls thigh <33

reader is well aware of how this looks. if you told her a year ago she'd have a sugar mommy milf hot teacher gf she'd think ur insane. so when marilyn starts to gift things if reader gets a good grade/achieves an accolade or something similar? it makes her soo submissive. just: "good job honey, you did so well on this exam. which do you want, those earrings or the ring you were eyeing yesterday?" and reader just stares w puppy eyes, blushing, like. "oh. um. both? <33" (she obvs gets both)

[unknownb0yg1rl]

Didn’t post this yesterday bc I was absolutely exhausted so I apologize, anyways here’s the update of my entire fucking weekend bc it was a tc filled wreck. So as some of yall know my tc has never taught me and never worked in my school however he has helped me with my work before. This starts Friday when I get back from doing something really late. I don’t get home till one and I have work in literally three hours, so being the codependent hoe I am I text him complaining about it. The next day (Saturday) guess who spends the ENTIRE DAY at my work. I am about 99% sure I almost tackled him to the ground when I saw him. So like while we hug he keeps walking us backwards so he can talk to my mom who is behind me (yes I work with my mommy but it is no longer healthy so I’m looking for a new job) he just hold on to me the entire time he’s talking and when I tell yall he smells so fucking good. Anyways I work for a few more hours and my dad picks me up (no I don’t have my license or a car but I’m working on it) when I get home I am in so much pain that literally nothing helps with. I text him crying (again) and he tells me “if I could take away all your pain I would” and I literally fall asleep thinking about that. Sunday nothing major happens but I am supposed to meet him on Monday and I’m so looking forward to that. Monday comes and we open late so I didn’t have to come in till like 11. The first thing I do is walk around and clean things up and guess who tf I see. He ends up spending literally all day at my work again. I get off at 2:30 and go find him and he helps me with a paper I’m writing, there is an entire paragraph about him in there. And when we get to the paragraph about him he goes “aww you’re so sweet honey” well we finish my paper and I ask him if he could drive me home, AND HE SAYS YES. The minute we get out instead of pulling out his cigarettes like he usually does he pulls out a fucking vape (was not happy abt this bc I think vapes look dumb but whatever im still a fiend) I have my cigs in my bag and I wanted to smoke before we got to his car bc he doesn’t smoke in his car but I don’t say anything and js keep walking bc I can js smoke when I get home. Anyways we get to his car and he starts playing music and THE LYRICS RELATING TO ME AND HIS SITUATIONS?!? Anyways we pass his vape back and forth the entire way to my house. I had so much fun w him but I never wanted to leave his car bc it smelled like him and it smelled so fucking good. He drove me home and refused to let me give him gas money. I actually fall more and more in love with him everyday.

Reminders I am an adult who can consent and has the ability to do whatever she pleases and make her own decisions

[binders-and-beanies]

Career/life update (long) since a couple mutuals had asked 🫶🏻

So I’ve decided to stay where I currently am for my graduate internship, where I work as a substance use therapist. I will be taking my licensure exam in April, graduating in May, and transitioning into full time employment there. I was offered a position somewhere else, but there was no clear right or wrong answer for me.

Lots of pros and cons that kinda evened each other out and it’s hard for me to know which choice would be best for me in terms of the actual work, mental health/stress and accessibility. So I looked at what factors I *can* know in advance like pay and location, and this one offers the most (50k without license, 55k once my license is official) and is walkable from where I’ll be living. Plus I won’t have to learn a new job, I’ll simply be doing this 5 days a week instead of 2 + keep the same clients I have now + I already know I like my coworkers n supervisors and I fit into the culture (tattoo friendly!)

I’ll also be going from not getting paid by this job, to being salaried for the first time in my life. I have never had a full time position anywhere despite working well over full time hours across jobs for most of my adult life. The amount I’ll be making per paycheck is what I currently consider to be a life changing amount of money to receive even once. So despite the pressure and new expenses I should be able to live more comfortably outside of work.

The catch is that 1) currently on my two work days I am spending those entire nights on paperwork, so I’ll doing that 5 nights a week + some weekends in addition to my 40 hours of direct work (but that is still less than im currently working) and 2) to stay full time you have to have a certain number of sessions per week, which is how therapy in general works but the no show rate in drug and alcohol is quite high.

So even if I work way more than full time I may end up technically part time with an hourly wage, or go back and forth if the no show rate fluctuates. That amount of money would still be absolutely life changing but it’s about having insurance for me (+ of course I Want 55k!!) However I’ll have a bit of a grace period, I may even be able to take 1-2 weeks off between graduation and my full-time start date which also gives extra time to build my caseload. In fact some coworkers are practically begging me to take that time off for my own sanity bc im also moving in with my partner during that same time (first time living away from home besides college).

On paper this all sounds like a massive success but im sooo scared bc the demands of this job have already just about hospitalized me. I get the sense that my partner was hoping i would go somewhere else bc theyve seen this work destroy me before i fully begin, but any work is hard when you’re this kind of disabled and any therapy job has similar stressors, at least i know im supported here.

I do think im making the right decision, and im extremely proud of achieving what I ultimately set out to do by going to school. It’s terrifying but this was why I worked my ass off for 7 years. And when my supervisor and I announced to the department that im staying and everybody clapped it felt like I rly am reaching a major milestone in life that I freaking earned.

I already feel more official and can get a sense of what my post grad life looks like. Letting go of the role of “student” is going to be rly hard bc I identify heavily with it, as well as the campus involvement that has made me feel more like myself. But I am excited to finally be able to focus on one thing and just Be A Therapist which is what I p much begged the universe for

[hontou-baka]

relationship ranting idk

blurgh i hate when im slapped with similarities between my ex and my current bf

I got married without a wedding, or rings, or anything traditional, to my ex so I could use my own tax info for school (plus it seemed like a safe risk in a seven year long relationship lmao). The semantics of it were clearly unimportant to my ex (i had to buy us both rings, and again, no wedding) and i felt embarrassed bc those things are important to me, so we never told anyone about getting married really.

Now that I'm close to getting the divorce done before baby comes, my bf is talking marriage. But in the same "just for the legal benefits" way. And i do want to get married... And i know it would help his taxes and whatnot... But my heart breaks thinking about doing the exact same dumb thing again, and idk i can make myself do it. Like... Sorry, prove im important enough to you to spend a couple hundred on a cute ring, get some photos of us taken together, hell even if he saved money for a nice elopement trip thats fine! I feel like aggretsuko with the donkey guy... Tadase? Idk i dont remember. Im sorry im kind of basic but as a cisgendered white woman that was raised mormon, ive dreamed about a beautiful wedding and feeling loved and celebrated since childhood... I think i should stand my ground on this :/

Another thing. Both have sleep issues and expect me to get up with them in the morning to help them get ready so they can sleep in as much as possible. And im made to feel bad about it if i complain because i dont have sleep issues. Im sorry you havent bothered your whole adult life to find a way to manage with your sleep problems, and im happy to make you food while you shower here and there, but that should not just be expected of me! And its not reciprocated! Its not like i make him get up with me, i would just leave him be and let him sleep because... I love him? Want him to be comfy? Ugh.

While im venting, ADHD IS NOT AN EXCUSE TO NOT DO CHORES REGULARLY!!!!! I DONT CARE!!!!! IF HIM AND I DONT WORK OUT IM GONNA HAVE ADHD BE A RED FLAG I SWEAR TO GOD BC EVERYONE I KNOW W IT REFUSES TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO LIVE WITH IT!!!! Im getting beyond furious that he has to be asked FOR EVERY. LITTLE. THING. You eat and use dishes. You put your dishes with the other dirty dishes. Thus. YOU ARE LOOKING AT THE PILE OF DIRTY DISHES... MULTIPLE TIMES A DAY. YOU CANNOT USE THE "OUT OF SIGHT OUT OF MIND" EXCUSE IN OUR TINY ROOM!!!! YOU CAN *SEE* THE FULL LAUNDRY BASKET THREE FEET AWAY FROM YOU!!!! YOU CAN SEE THE GOD DAMN CHORE CHART TWO FEET AWAY FROM YOU I MADE SO YOU COULDNT USE THE "BUT IDK WHAT TO DOOO OR HOW TO HEEELP" EXCUSE!!!!! YOU CAN SMELL WHEN THE CAT TAKES A HUMAN SIZED SHIT AND KNOW YOU NEED TO SCOOP TOMORROW!!!!!! YOU!!!! JUST!!!!! DONT!!!!!!! *WANT TO*!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And the funniest fucking thing is i TRULY wouldnt mind having a more "traditional" setup, id be fine doing 90% of the chores if he even worked 20 hours/wk consistently. But im thinking as soon as i feel recovered from birth i want to find a job myself because he just lets his anxiety win too much and cant hold a job, and i have actual goals in life lmao 🤪🤪🤪 but if i made him a stay at home parent im sure id be coming home to a world of frustration (things that need done never being done). Im just at the end of my rope bc with chronic mental and physical health issues, i get he cant do what most people can (same goes for me, not as severe on the physical side tho) but god it so often feels like weaponized incompetence. And i think it partially is. Ive talked to him about this over and over and it always ends with "just tell me or ask... Even though you shouldn't have to..." BUT THATS THE POINT!!!! IM NOT GONNA BEG YOU TO HELP ME KEEP OUR LIVING QUARTERS NOT MISERABLE, MAN!!!!! USE YOUR EYES AND YOUR HEAD!!!!

I joked about banning war thunder for a week post birth and he seemed shocked id even think about asking him to not game for a week (his only hobby/leisure activity). Idk.

ok that feels better i guess ill get back to my mashed potatoes

[avo-kat]

i think one of the hardest lessons i had to learn (and still do) as an adult is that im allowed to improve my life.

even in small ways. even if it already works just fine. even if it would be more expensive.

some examples:

i had a broom that broke in half so i had been using the half-length broom for years, being annoyed every time i had to use it and always having a sore back afterwards. it only occurred to me much later to simply spend the 3€ on a new broom. instant and huge improvement

i hate getting my hands wet when doing the dishes, so i avoid doing the dishes. simply buying a 1€ brush with a long handle helps with this issue

i used to put my dishes brush on the side of my sink, where it constantly fell and i constantly had to pick it up. i spend 1€ on sticky tag and a hook so i could hang it by my sink. no more bending down and picking it up

living with a squeaky door hinge for YEARS. hearing the squeak multiple times a day and always being annoyed. spending 5€ on wd-40 and its instantly fixed.

its simple shit like that and i know many many maaaany people like me that simply dont realize they are allowed to FIX and IMPROVE things.

you are allowed to buy better things, even if you already have something that gets the job done.

i have a cordless, bagless stick vacuum and without it i'd be miserable. i always hates having to lug the regular vacuum out of the closet, plug it in, drag it around, remember to buy new bags, etc., whereas my new stick vacuum just stands there at the side and i can immediately turn it on and vacuum up the few crumbs my cat made after eating. i dont have to be annoyed by either letting the crumbs be there for days and i dont have to annoy myself by dealing with a shitty vacuum.

and its not even just a money issue. like many people have issues brushing their teeth. that could be helped by using kids toothpaste that tastes yummy, for example.

i absolutely cant deal with sun in my face. sunglasses didnt help. well i bought a cap and its an instant relief and im wearing it everyday now.

its just simple and obvious things like that. and im still working on this, but yeah.

[vivienne-07]

Parenting Rulebook Template

Religion & BeliefsFamily religion:

Attend services

Allowed to change religion?

Technology & Devices

First tablet (with controls): Age?(and write additional details)

First basic phone: Age?(and write additional details for all)

First smartphone: Age?

Social media accounts: Age?

Unsupervised internet: Age?

Gaming console: Age?

Video chats with friends: Age?

Online-only friends: Age?

Phone/chat monitoring: Age?

Bedtime

Age 0-2: Time

Age 3-5: Time

Age 6-9: Time

Age 10-12: Time

Age 13-15: Time

Age 16-18: Time

Appearance & Grooming

Clothes choice: Age? (And description for all)

Hair dye: Age?

Ear piercings: Age?

Other piercings: Age?

Light makeup: Age?

Full makeup: Age?

Shaving/waxing: Age?

Acrylic nails: Age?

Wearing revealing clothes: Age?

Friends & Social Life:

Playdates: Age?

Sleepovers: Age?

Going out alone: Age?

Group hangouts: Age?

Dating: Age?

Home alone: Age?

Hosting friends: Age?

Online-only friends: Age?

Phone monitoring(checking phone regularly, going through chats, Yes/no if yes: Age?

Money & Independence

Allowance: Age?

First job: Age?

Debit card: Age?

Buying own things: Age?

Managing budget: Age?

Transportation

Bike alone: Age?

Public transport: Age?

Learner's permit: Age?

Driving license: Age?

Driving with friends: Age?

Responsibilities

Clean room: Age?

Laundry: Age?

Cook simple meals: Age?

Babysit siblings: Age?

Pay for personal items: Age?

Handle school contact: Age?

Risky Behaviors & Adult Choices:

Vaping: Age?

Smoking: Age?

Drinking alcohol: Age?

Getting drunk: Age?

Tattoos: Age?

Extreme piercings: Age?

Gambling: Age?

Watching adult content: Age?

Moving out: Age?

Sexual activity: Age?

Room & Privacy:

Own room: Age?

Privacy (strict or chill?)

Parenting style: (Strict or relaxed?)

Punishments (what's acceptable?)

I have put in alot of hardwork for this please do it!! (ToT)(ToT)

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Sighh what is this bro😭😭

Religion & BeliefsFamily religion:

Attend services: from a young age and after theyre old enough they can make thier own decisions

Allowed to change religion? I guess yeah but after to ur old enough to make ur own desicons and also with a actual logical explanation

Technology & Devices

First tablet (with controls): prob 9 , cuz like in this generation already like every child has a device so im pretty sure by then its gonna be even more like normalised, but yh even if they have a tablet I still want them to spend most of their time doing other activities , and not ruin thier childhood cuz theres so much u csn do and yeah obviously they can use theyre tablet too sometimes jus not addicted to it

First basic phone: maybe like 11 especially if im dropping them off somewhere n I need them to call me or be able to text me n stuff snd they can have games n shit on here jus not everything u would normally have tho

First smartphone: Age?

Prob 13😭 cuz ik for a fact if I say a age like 15 or 16 thats not gonna happen and theyre gonna get it by 13 or 14 , just cuz of how the world works nowadays honestly

Social media accounts: Age? Stopp😭😭 ok personally speaking EVERYONE my age has social media ( I do too but thats a secret if ykwim) but like basically I always felt like it was super unfair my parents dont let me have it snd shit , so ik thats gonna be the case for them too like I legit understand it BUUT social media is not a good place to be on when ur young so I would prefer the age to be 15 but I think this might change that time😭

Unsupervised internet: uhh 15 maybe

Gaming console: wha I mean they can game whenever they prob wont have thier own like gaming setup or something till theyre a lil older but yeah

Video chats with friends: 11 or 12 Idrm

Online-only friends: Age? They NEED to be atleast a teen cuz no ur not going on the internet when ur super underage , online friends can either be the best people u ever meet or they can ruin ur life with online shit that ull get too involved in (i got lucky i have the best ones ever) so yh i jus want u to be safe cuz alot of online friendships also dont turn out as planned..so if jus want u to be old enough to know what to share and what not to share online and basically be safe

Phone/chat monitoring: Age? I wouldn't go through every chat they have with thier friends for privacy but if something really does happen then I prob will but not that regulary tho?

Bedtime

Age 0-2: Time uhh well for newborns it's hard cuz they need to be taking naps constantly so for them there isn't really a set bedtime cuz yk they take naps so they'll be up and night maybe ro they might wake up late at night soo yeah u csnt really tell 😭

Age 3-5: Time prob 7

Age 6-9: Time 7:30_8ish

Age 10-12: Time 9-9:30 ish

Age 13-15: Time max midnight dont stay up after that for ur own good😭😭

Age 16-18: Time no bedtime but I hope they can make theyre own decisions and know when they need sleep and dont pull all nighters

(Guys I follow almost none of these😭)

Appearance & Grooming

Clothes choice: idm jus not inappropriate shit especially when ur young

Hair dye: after ur a teen but not often cuz it's bad for ur hair and ur still young so I dont wanna damage ur hair

Ear piercings: any idm

Other piercings: probably after 17

Light makeup: 12-13

Full makeup: if it's on a specific occasion like a wedding then 14-15 if not then 16+ ( guys dont use too much chemicals on ur skin ur still young and focus more on skincare to help matting ur skin , n u dont need makeup ppl but ik ik so yh just dont do too much at a young age)

Shaving/waxing: puberty

Acrylic nails: After theyre teens

Wearing revealing clothes: I would prefer no but like yk prob not gonna happen so like 16 ish

Friends & Social Life:

Playdates: any age idm

Sleepovers: 11 if it's at our house and with a very close friend 15+ if it's at someone else's house and I need to knwo theyre parents well (growing up i was always sad my parents never let me but stories I've heard about them are really scary and I want my kids to be safe)

Going out alone: after theyre a teen but when ur young and cant drive yet dont go like too far , stay close and update ur parents if u can , like be responsible

Group hangouts: any age

Dating: 😭😭😭idk bro , probably 15+ so u dont get hurt or go through shit at a young age :(

Home alone: umm 10 or 11 maybe

Hosting friends: Any yay

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Phone monitoring(checking phone regularly, going through chats, Yes/no if yes: yes but not often and not like fully invading theyre privacy but probably only till theyre like 16 agter that i dont think so? Idk

Money & Independence

Allowance: Age?

I want them to learn to manage money so maybe like 11 idk

First job: after theyre old enough , I dont wanna burden with both job and school

Debit card: 15 or 16

Buying own things: after u have money

Managing budget: from a young age idk when but yh

Transportation

Bike alone: Age? If it's in our neighbourhood or sum like that 10 , somewhere far idk

Public transport: 13-14 be safe and responsible

Learner's permit: u can get it at like 15 or 16 in most countries so

Driving license: 16 , 17 whenever they can get it

Driving with friends: if ur younger then 16 dont just go with any random friends , like make sure u trust them alot snd theyre close friends but over 16 still same thing but like yk

Responsibilities

Clean room: once they get a room

Laundry:8- 9-10

Cook simple meals: involving fire or like alot of like yk 12+ if not like 9-10

Babysit siblings: 13 or sum

Pay for personal items: if they want to , honestly I would never not want to pay for something my child wants cuz yk

Handle school contact: uhh idk

Risky Behaviors & Adult Choices:

Vaping: no bro😔😔 , not until ur an adult atleast

Smoking: same

Drinking alcohol: no religon wise no

Getting drunk: um no?😭😭

Tattoos: Age? Religon wise no but idfk how things are gonna be bro so 18+

Extreme piercings: adult and be careful dont do anything stupid

Gambling: no

Watching adult content: no why would I give permission for that😭😭

Moving out: agter 18 ehnever they like but I would not be the type of parent thats gonna kick them out or make them pay rent if they wanna stay longer like it's literally ur home stay as long as u like , but get a life too

Sexual activity: after theyre married?😭

Room & Privacy:

Own room: probably like 6 or 7 or 8 , whenever we can

Privacy (strict or chill?) Chill

Parenting style: (Strict or relaxed?) Relaxed i would say like , not being strict over stupid things yk only when we need to in order to raise them right

Obviously theyre dad is also gonna take care for stuff snd make his own rules too like yk not everything is my desicon so yeah

I jus hope I can be a good mom one day for my kids 😈 and give them a childhood they deserve and yk jus hope my family has a good bond with everyone and not like hating eachother and having that toxic environment

This took so long bro im tired

[onmymasa22]

When ur a coffee person, few things make u happier than when ur friend gives u a mug.

Is it normal for u to take a mug with u everywhere. Because u want coffee everywhere u go.

friends know u r a go with the flow adventure person

down for an adventure so they ask u iso u wake up at 6am to go climb a mountain on the Jordan border. Completely terrifying but super cool.

I think my goal in life is to keep a mug, marshmallows, and a lighter in my purse at all times.

Dear hashem

Purim is a hard holiday for me. Cuz i beloeve that pirim and yom kippur have the same goals, but yom kippur

Is it normal to keep a mug with u, in ur purse, everywhere u go. Cuz u never know when ull want a cup of coffee.

I feel like theres two types of girls in the world. Those who keep normal things in their purse- wallet, keys, earbuds... and those who have the weirdest crap in their bag. The messier ur bag is, the better ur life is. We got gum at the bottom cuz the container explodes occasionally, a capo because the guitar at work doesnt have one, coffee and tea, a mug to be able to have said coffee and tea while out and about, earbuds with the wires and the silicone off cuz i cant stand how it feels otherwise, a wallet, a rubber tourniquet because i feel like if i take it everywhere i wont need to use it, a half a shekel to remember that im only just a part of a nation, a train card to madrid because i obviously will be told any day now that i have an inheritance apartment there from a long lost relative and ill need to claim it immediately, a phone charger, meds cuz my concerta wearing off gives me a headache,

a mug given to u by ur friends

From purim, my earring misplaced itself (i DID NOT lose it), said the rabbi meir baal HaNes thingy, found the earring. Now I gladly owe tzedaka. Anyone have an ideas?

As a background this all came from a convo w a friend thats its just hard for me to speak up.

U know someone is one of ur people when u spend the weekend with them and the next week u still

הי רחל, מחר אני אעבוד במכללה על הפרחים להכין עוד ליד תנור. יש לי חברה שנותנת לי שעווה דבורים אבל זה תהליך לטהר היא אמרה אז אולי אנסה את זה שבוע הבא. רביעי אני מקווה לעבוד עם גבס על הגוף וצוואר. וחמישי שישי אכין עוד קונכיות. קניתי 2 חבילות היום. לשאר השבוע נראה לי זה הלוז. זה עוזר לי אני חושבת להגיד לך ככה הלוז כי אז יש לי אחריות לעמוד בזה. ואני צריכה לזכור לכתוב גם

U know whats amazing about being an adult? I get to spend money on what i want to spend money on. I get to wear red, to wear jeans, to dance at a party, to hug strangers, to be happy. I have job, im getting two degrees, i have good friends. Im loved by many, I'm a good person. And you're finding something to be concerned about? The only thing that matters is that im happy and safe. Its ok, if not dressing or being the way u want me to makes u unhappy. Thats u. Thats not me. But im allowed to be myself. Im allowed to live my life.

Im not sorry im not the child u dreamed of. Im me. Im not ur own personal robot. I dont care if something reflects badly on you.

My mom is so fearful of what people think of me. I dont dress the same as her, i dont live the same as her, i dont look the same as her, i dont act the same as her. I am an adult who lives my life according to what i want. And they need to relax. I dont need an intervention about a piercing. I liked it, i paid for it, i got it.

Hashem, let me just be happy. I like piercings. Stop making me not do that. I want what i want. I buy stuff because i want it.

This might be an unpopular opinion, but adir getz is totally the taylor

My israeli friends know that i can jam out hard to any adir getz song.

You don't get a say in what i wear, how i dress, haircuts, shoes.

What makes you think that u get a say in what i wear, what piercings i have, how i look, whats on my body? I get to decide.

[gvftea]

“I have money saved up, eventually that money will run out if I am out of work for an extended period of time. My medical team currently has no way to estimate my recovery rate. It could be 6 weeks, it could be 6 months. And let’s say it’s closer to the latter…how exactly do you expect me to be able to survive for 6 months with no income whatsoever? Rent, car loan, car insurance, phone bill, groceries, gas, etc. all have to be paid for those 6 months so regardless of if I spent the money on something to make me feel happy when I literally have had nothing but bad shit happen to me since I moved, it really isn’t going to make a difference in the long run if I am still injured and unable to work. -Kieran”

Now you pissing me off and I’m going to lay down some hard truths about life and being an adult

You are suppose to have 6 months saving to support a lifestyle for instances like this when life hits you hard with bad luck. That is why it’s important to live well within or below your means.

Making unnecessary life decisions that would drain your savings lower than 3 months and not making sacrifices and it a priority to build it back up is financial irresponsible.

When you are in financially compromising periods, your immediate priority should be to cut every non essential expense. Treating yourself and spending money on non-essentials is irresponsible.

If you took a job A. Without insurance or B. With an extended waiting period before you can be eligible for certain benefits, and didn’t supplement with your other coverage, that is irresponsible.

You need to apply for temporary disability and other social welfare. If you have not switched over your residence yet, that is again, irresponsible

Im sorry, this is ugly because life is ugly, it’s not fair, it never will be, it’s a cold, hard bitch, specially in America. You will never be able to control life but you need to plan for what you can control. For the love of god take some agency and accept that you alone are responsible for yourself. And the beautiful thing is when you don’t depend on people for money, they can’t say shit about it.

[minilovejoy]

one month before i reach a year in my job and i absolutely hate everything

besides earning, i really hate my job. i know it's a privilege to have one and to be able to support myself, but wow letting this in the open feels different but i do really hate it.

i don't know if it's the workload or the people i work with but i definitely hate being anxious clocking in and when it's my off, thinking what fuck ups have i made during the day.

and god do i hate being reprimanded and people noticing my flaws and thinking i never did anything right during my whole stay. i'm nearing a year and i don't have a scapegoat anymore cause who the fuck still making mistakes in their work they've been doing in almost a year?

and maybe i'm overthinking things but i definitely hate it. and tomorrow i'll clock in once again thinking what went wrong and believing that i never did anything right in my job. i hate my job. i really wish i could quit and not to be afraid searching for new one after being told that once i quit this job, i need to find a workplace witn a boss that will be so understandable because i always fucking cry at work.

i don't know why but i know i am not built for this kind of life and i hate people pressuring me to get this and that and start planning my adult life because hey! news flash i don't want to be one and i don't want to rush everything because i'm so fucking tired and we both have different timelines and i hate rushing things so what if i don't want to sign up for things yet and what if i don't want to get into a relationship yet and what if i just want to spend my whole life attending concerts and eating fast food and buying books i'll never get to read and why the fuck would you pressure me for something i haven't given a thought yet because i just want to fucking enjoy my fucking life!!!!!!!!! and buy silly little things with the money i have earned IM STILL YOUNG

[wildglitch]

Random Stuff for that NightGuard Denki Au I sometimes think about.

Im giving this lore so I can get it out if my systum

-I HC that mha happens about 100 year in the future from it was released. So 2113. If quirks appearred in 1913. Fnaf 1 took place in 1993 so make it a year earlier 1992. Im making it so that Denki was born way before canon, around 1977 give or take, so ge can be 15 when he starts working at Freddys

-since its about 100 years before canon, quirks are still super rare to the point that him having an electricity quirk is either unique or down right unheard of in Utha and it would be something people look for, to the point of ignoreing child labor laws. Landing Denki the job.

-I probably explained it in another post but to rehash it, Denki need money to pay for his aunts summer rent or else hes neing sent back to Japan where he will be grounded for forgeting to save up money. Make sense? Cool lets continue.

-Denki is givin the job for the summer, or the 6 weeks hes going to be there. His personal goal? Getting put onto the day shift. He dose not really feel like ruining his sleep the whole summer, so hes determend to get switched to the day shift and not get fired.

-I cant totally see some weird William worshiping going on in the company. Cause theres no way he could have gotten away wity so much shit and no one in the company knowing. He just has a little cult following working to keep everything under the rug for him. They are also very creepy, thank you for noticing

-Denki decorated tf out if the office

-His schegual gets wrecked so he spends his nights exploring the city on a skatebored and hanging out at empty parking lots

-he meets Michael, the son of one of the founders by chance when he was standing at a 7/11 at 3a.m on a sunday. He was gettung a slurpy in his work uniforme cause he noticed it gets him discounts and Michael notices, they chat for a bit and screw around a bit in a parking lot

-Michaels age is fucked so here my take. 1983, the bit happens, Mike is a crappy teen so lets pit him at 16. Years later, in 1992 hes a 25 year old guy hanging parking lot wity a kid thats around the age his brother should be.

-The Ghosts fuck with Denki hard! Or at least some of them do, its kinda a toss up. You see the ghosts recognise that hes a teenager (kid) and not an adult and that changes a few things. For some, its positive, since they had older siblings and/or trust the big kids enough to protect them, so they leave denki alone. Others, had older siblings. Thats all the explination I need, they attack him purely out of spite.

-Denki figures out pretty quickly that the robots are posseded, and he uses this to his advantage using things he liked as a kid to get on their good side, since technically they are the same age.

-He asked Michael for help, who wants nothing to do with Freedys, but gives in and help out realizing, whole crap this place is actually haunted. This sends him on a rabbit hole of trying to figure out what happend with his dad and sister. Cue Fnaf Sister location happeing on Denkis last week.

-Also, everyone thinks hes somr sort of lunitic for working at Freedys cause of all the rumors but he dose not and can not care. He needa money.

-I see Denki either, surviving multiple summers at Freedy until he gets killed and stuffed into a suit or dying on his 6th week and getting dragged into Mikes and Williams beef as another casualty.

-I can see Mike setting Denkis soul free and Denki just being like "nuh uh" and continues hunting Michale. Maybe trough a small animatronic or a plushie, and Mike feeling guilty decides, "ok fine, you live with me. Now help me plan on how Im gonna kill my dad"

-Denki in his undead prime, somehow ends up surviving till the MHA present day with a few other ghosts Like Michael and maybe one of the animatronuc kids and them with their animatronic knowlege and future tech get themselves pretty realistic looking bodys.

-Denki spends a few years enjoying life and decides that being a hero sounds fun, so he moves to Japan to try it out.

-the ghost kid find old cc tv footage of Denkis time as nightguard and post a compilation video online and it goes viral.

-UA kids and others regognize Denki in the videos and hes left in an awkwerd position of trying to decide to play it of or explain that hes actually a dead 15 year old that died more than 100 years ago

And thats that. Short, simple, not that complicated. I'll probably make anotger post with quick skits for this